The sister in the video above made a point that made some feel a way, but we have to agree with the perspective she presented. She makes the claim that manipulating a woman to lay with her just to leave after getting it is a form of sexual abuse. Here’s how she stated the scenario:
A man who shows interests of becoming intimate with a woman and she expresses that she does not want to be intimate with just anyone but only with some who she is chatting (talking/courting) with. The man has no interest I dealing with her in that manner, but he does anyway so that he can be intimate with her. Once they have done the act of intimacy, he now dips off and doesn’t want to deal anymore. That’s manipulation.
Lay With Her. Stay With Her.
It is manipulative to lead a sister on with hopes just to leave her hanging in the end after one gets what they wanted. The Most High even agrees with this and knowing that these events would take place. He left laws on how to govern ourselves. Exodus 22:16 (KJV) And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.
Deuteronomy 22:28-29 (KJV) 28 If a man find a damsel [that is] a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; 29 Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel’s father fifty [shekels] of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.
With these guidelines set in place for us we have the option to apply it and see it’s benefits. We would no longer have “playas”, pimps, whores and degrading culture amongst each other. Marriage would be the only understanding when it comes to the act of being intimate and wouldn’t be just a recreational act, because if you lay with her, you gotta stay with her my brudda.